Sunday, January 13, 2013

Accept This Truth, It Will Never Be The Same...

Last semester, I went over to the University of Utah with several of my fellow nursing students to attend a lecture on the topic of grieving.  It was very fascinating to me, and I learned a lot.  I wanted to share some of what I learned with you.  Maybe you are currently grieving, maybe you have grieved in the past, but certainly at some time in your life you will find yourself grieving and I hope something here will help you cope with your grief.

"Accept this truth, it will never be the same."

You need to lower your expectations and try to find peace in your grief journey.

Grief is sadness on steroids, it is a bunch of messy emotions.

Very important:  There is NO WRONG WAY to grieve.

No loss is more or less painful from another, it is just different.

To loose a parent is to loose the past...
To loose a child is to loose the future...
To loose a spouse is to loose the present...

You should not make any important decisions while you are grieving, you will have what many people describe as "brain fog," and you just need to get up in the morning and put one foot in front of the other.

To give yourself a gift does not feed self-pity, it prevents it...and is a wonderful thing to do.

To be in denial is not unhealthy, as long as you consciously make the decision to be in denial.

Do not try to triumph over grief, just survive it, because that is just as honorable.

Grief will eventually go away, but the emptiness and yearning for those we love does not ever go away, nor should it.